LGBT

“We are all connected in the great circle of life.”
Mufasa – Disney’s The Lion King

I have found that these words not only connect to all things, but is also the answer to all things. Without balance, there can be no harmony. When there is disconnect, there is discord.

In marriage, the same grand rules and principles apply. I have been with both men and women in my time, and the underlying principles are the same.

At first, we need to look within ourselves. If we are not comfortable, both with, and do not love ourselves first, than the expectation of loving someone else should not be considered.

As well, common human decency, and the rules of getting along, to attract others to the liking of your personality very much apply.

As with anything in life, it is often about mindset. If one does not wish for anything long term, or substantial, and attempts to fake at doing so, than the result will definitely not be long term.
Seeing much of yourself in the other person is an incredibly difficult thing to find. When you do find it, don’t let it go. That being said, the more experiences you have had out of life, the more you can share with someone else, which, in proportion, would hopefully widen your pool of people to date. There! That’s another point for age!

See, it all comes back to balance.

Now, in a relationship, are there sacrifices? It wouldn’t be an equal footing if there weren’t. The key here is to create your bond in such a way that the sacrifices don’t become so sacrificial. Rather, turn
them into strengths to hold the relationship together, and when your brain comes out the other side, it will be far happier. Trust me!

So, today, my blog is brief. Again, it is an adjunct to other blogs up here similar to this, and is certainly a progressive mark in my own lifeline of a relationship. The concepts are simple. Unfortunately,
not everyone sees it as such, and makes all of this so much more complicated than it really needs to be. DON’T DO THAT!! The classic K.I.S.S. probably applies more to relationships than anything else
within our divine, human existence.

Go forth. Date. Love. Be Merry.

For those of you who don’t know, Ralph is my husband. If you look at the “About” page, he is the black one. Folks, married life is a blast, and my best to all who are!

Living with him, for me anyway, is like living with your best friend, only it is daily, and deeper. Oh, sure, we argue. We disagree. But, not to the point that it affects our love.

A typical outing for us is a nice dinner around town. We love places like Chic (great chicken – organic), Wolfgang Puck Cafe’, and once in a while, somewhere like SLS, or the Geisha House. We have both been food critics in our lives, so, food is definitely something we share. It’s often a large topic of conversation with us, and we take great thrill in sharing stories about different places we go to.

He is a big sissy! There is an adorable, little mouse running around our apartment. My attitude is to befriend it, feed it, and keep it alive. If it was up to him (and not the mousee mouse), it would have died a horrible, and unfair death long ago.

Our dog, Prince – a miniature Italian greyhoud (also commonly referred to as “our son”), is so often the center of our lives. Whenever we go to Petco, the cute little mice are in cages at the entrance. He sneers. I say I love them. We laugh. It’s cute.

From time to time on here, I will include little snippets of our crazy gay life! The good, the bad, and the almost ugly! Enjoy!

*”SAN FRANCISCO – The California Supreme Court has upheld a voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage, but it also decided that the estimated 18,000 gay couples who tied the knot before the law took effect will stay wed.”

Now, correct me if I am wrong, but does the above paragraph even make sense? O.K., so, it’s great that we can all stay wed. However, what about the guilt that has been placed on our shoulders, because the heads of a few people in power are stuck in the ancient past?

By that same notion, does that mean that only a few black people can stay free, and the rest have to go back to being slaves? Maybe only a few Jews can live, and the rest all have to die by gas poisoning.

State of California, you have turned gay marriage into a complete farce.

It can be seen how something like the “war on drugs” is a tremendous money maker for the United States government. But, this doesn’t even make sense in that category.

LGBT people are a large part of the economy, and quite often spend lots, and lots of money, when you put us in perspective via an equational per cap.

Forgetting how our government believes, it hasn’t occurred to them that the clothes they wear, the chairs they sit in, the cars that are designed that they drive around in, the computers they use, etc.. more than likely have the thoughts and ideas contained therein of many, many LGBT people!

We are all living under the same sky, eating the same food, spending money the same way, and living very similar lives. Marriage is marriage. The same dating, going out, ideas, hard work, struggles, and love all play a part.

The constitution was created to be amended. The original writers of it knew that such a document had to be changed as the people changed with it. We all get and understand that such a decision was made under a free voting system. But, what were the reasonings for this vote? How valid are such mindsets under a man like Barack Obama? In the interest of moving society forward, as any government’s priority should be number one, how is voting in such a way contributing?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m extremely proud and grateful to be both gay and married. I live to see the day that everyone who so chooses can have similar joy. See! Within myself, I’m not spreading any kind of “whatever the heck is inside the minds of California government”.

So, they are wrong.

*”Gay rights advocates have scheduled marches throughout California and in several other states for Tuesday evening. Organizers say the gatherings will be celebratory if the court rules in their favor and angry if Proposition 8 is upheld.”

It’s really too bad. I know I would’ve at least wanted some champagne.

*Yahoo! News
May 26, 2009
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090526/ap_on_re_us/us_gay_marriage_6